Posted by Penny on January 30, 2004, at 11:05:32
In reply to Re: My T turned on me » Penny, posted by cubic_me on January 30, 2004, at 10:54:08
> I suppose its not even the judgements that she made about me that I mind most, its my reactions to those judgements - why do I let it get to me? I hate it that how I feel can be so heavily influenced by a person who I hardly know and who I only see for 50mins a week.
What I want you to do right now is to try to realize that your reaction to her judgment is perfectly appropriate! You are going to feel however you are going to feel - don't beat yourself up about her judgments getting to you.Even if she was having an off day - you are entitled to feel hurt or offended or let down or misunderstood or whatever it is you feel about that session, her judgment, etc. You are entitled to your feelings.
I'm not saying you shouldn't try to keep things in perspective, but I think it might help if you could be kinder to yourself regarding your feelings about this. I think it's quite normal to let what a therapist says get to you, even tho' you only see her 50 minutes a week. I also think that therapists often forget how even the smallest things they say or do sometimes can have a huge impact on how we feel as their clients. They are important to us. What they think is important to us. Isn't that why we pay them?
I guess what I should say is that therapists shouldn't have 'off days'. :-) yeah, right. But seriously, do you see how you have made this into a wrong that you are responsible for? It's not. You've done nothing wrong.
And I apologize if I'm completely off-base with my interpretation of your email. I am constantly beating myself up for even the smallest things, but it pains me to see others do it.
Take care of YOU.
P
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