Posted by Bell_75 on January 19, 2004, at 3:00:55
In reply to Encouraging transference?, posted by All Done on January 19, 2004, at 1:01:52
> Anyway, to my point. The other day in my therapy session - prior to watching this show - I noticed that my therapist puts his hand on his chin when I put my hand on my chin, crosses his legs when I cross mine, leans forward when I do, and so on. He does it all the time, I think. Also, when talking about my transference feelings for him, he told me it was okay for me to flirt.
Hi
I could closely relate to what you said in your post and I've noticed theres lots of body language going on in my therapy sessions too.
I notice we both sit with our legs cross and then one of us changes to the other leg its by reaction that the other person does too.
Then when I'm thinking hard about something I stroke my chin to help then think maybe my therapist thinks I might be making fun of him because he has a goatee yet I dont think I have seen him do that yet haha
I'm a woman...we dont grow goatees! however it helps me to think, sometimes i feel like reaching over and stroking his goatee to compensate for me not being able to have one hahah.
Anywho, to get to a point, I notice that I feel sometimes that my gesturing and the way I act might come across as flirting so i quickly pull myself up on it yet I find he teases me because he knows I'll react with a shy giggle or something of the sorts.
Its a strange relationship the one between therapist and client/patient as you totally confide and trust this person moreso than you would your own partner yet both people need to try to keep it within professional limits.
I havent discussed transference with my T and I think it might make us both abit nervous. I already know things about him that he doesnt know I do and sometimes I worry I'll blurt them out accidently heh.
I know from my experiences that its less pressure having a same sex therapist/patient scenario. I went from a female T to a male T and I find its an added issue for an already paranoid person to be more anxious about. Its not a big issue but I cant deny it doesnt cross my mind.
This is just my own opinion tho.
I also think that due to the fact that therapists are also living, breathing humans with instincts they may act in a flirting manner too.
If its within safe boundaries then go with it but if its making you feel uncomfortable say something or if not that then just not show encouragement at his behaviour.Uhh, I hope I've helped or at least made you feel abit at ease knowing your not the only person that has wondered this too.
Take care :)
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