Posted by Catmom on January 13, 2004, at 15:25:33
In reply to Re: Perfect Therapy Client Questions, posted by Poet on January 12, 2004, at 9:33:28
I have no idea whatsoever when my therapist's birthday is. In fact, it took me about a year and a helf to look at her diplomas. I was afraid to, because I did not want her to think I was "too interested." I was shocked to see that she must be about 20 years older than she looks. Looking at her diplomas got me to brooding a bit: Is she the kind of person who has had a facelift, or botox injections and should that make any difference?
I hope that nobody takes this personally, but I don't much like SUVs. One day I saw her come into the parking lot: I was probably a couple of minutes early and I ran and hid behind the building, but the deed was done: she drives a humongous SUV. I felt a sinking sensation; I would have guessed that she drove a small Japanese car: Honda, Toyota, something like that.
But in the ensuing months, I see that same SUV in the parking lot. So I had to make up a little story that she and her family (and I don't even know if she has a family!) like to go on camping trips.
I see the dangers of too much information: you can use it to project, to create false fantasies; to follow a line of thought that just might not be accurate. And then to take the imagination and transform it into a "truth" is a real human propensity (according to Shakespeare, anyhow!)
So I don't want to know my therapist's b-day in my rational mind. What if I truly believed in astrology and did not like her sign? In my "needy" mind, I would love to have more personal details about her, but they would undoubtedly resound with much greater significance than they actually merit.
I DO send her a holiday card; but that's probably because I send one to just about everyone I know. And she did thank me, however briefly, but we did not discuss the image or the message....
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