Posted by Rigby on December 24, 2003, at 16:47:47
In reply to Rigby, I emailed her my dream, posted by crushedout on December 24, 2003, at 15:48:56
Hi Crushed,
This is *great!!* It's really hard, I understand, but it's such a good step. Writing is easier and sending her a dream that reflects how you feel is a really good way of approaching it. It's genuine but also gentle.
I'm not sure why you would be sad but if I had to venture a guess I'd say that when you "come out" about your feelings towards your therapist then you kinda have to deal with the reality of this being a therapuetic relationship and not a romantic one. I was *very* uncomfortable about it but in my case I became actually concerned that it might go there (it probably wouldn't have but with the 'Don't you see? You're special.' thing I got pretty spooked.)
I've had some really other wonderful, non sexual but highly romantic dreams about my therapist that I've written and shared with her when I was there--it gets easier. I've also had some nasty dreams where she left me or betrayed me. It can cut both ways.
Hopefully she'll aknowledge the email but it's probably best to not get into an in-depth exchange off-line--I think that can get into some boundary stuff. I only email my therapist when I feel it's heavy stuff--usually dreams--and she'll usually write one or two sentences back. Hardly more. It's not cold--seems about right.
Anyway, I really think you'll benefit from this. It takes courage and from the sounds of it, seems like you've got plenty of it. Dealing with big crushes is something I've had to face and while it's not pretty, if you kinda do the work (go to therapy, take it seriously) it's enormously helpful.
Congrats!!!!
> I had a dream yesterday about my T in which she came to my house and held me and kissed the top of my head. In a nutshell. We've been talking about dreams a lot the past few days because I've been having a lot of them (some including her and others not). She gave me her email address for the first time today, so I emailed it to her. God, it's embarrassing. But I did it. In part thanks to you. I wonder whether she'll write back and when. It was hard. I feel really sad.
poster:Rigby
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