Posted by Karen_kay on December 17, 2003, at 17:35:25
In reply to shrink's wife wonderings, posted by Joslynn on December 17, 2003, at 16:08:43
I don't think you are at all weird. I had the same thoughts. And my therapist asked my once. He asked me "Do you fantasize about what my wife looks like?" I was appauled and horrified. We finally clarified precisely what the word fantasize meant, and I admitted that I wonder what his wife looks like.
Then I found a picture of her. And she wasn't at all what I *wanted* her to look like. But, the more I think about it, the more I think she is what possibly suits him. (Or rather, closer to his tastes)..I think that maybe it is a competition of sorts for attention. Maybe I'm way off here, but you want to be important to your therapist. I'm not sure if you are experiencing transference (erotic) towards him. But, I think everyone is curious about our therapists' spouses and children. And of course we wonder how we rate accordingly. I always wonder if my therapist finds me more physically attractive than his wife. I would ask him, but I know even if he did he wouldn't admit it. And, it would just make him mad at me for asking, so what's the point? Maybe on my very last day, I'll tell him everything and I'll be like, "So, I allready know I'm sexier than your old lady. I just want to hear you say it"... But, that would just make me sound bad.... :( Or would it? I could be like, "here's my number, give me a call in two years, baby!"
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