Posted by fallsfall on November 26, 2003, at 17:55:44
In reply to Re: Opposite gender therapists a bad idea?, posted by Eddie Sylvano on November 26, 2003, at 16:15:51
I am female, and my first therapist was female - I thought I would be more open with a woman. When I had to choose a new therapist, my first therapist said that she thought I should see a man. She was quite adamant about it, but I never quite found out why. I continued to think that I would do better with a woman, but I interviewed both women and men. I ended up choosing a man - I asked him as part of the interview if I should go to a man or a woman (considering my transference was causing a problem with my current therapist). His answer was (I thought) really smart. He said that I should go to a good therapist. That transference would happen no matter whether the therapist was male or female. I have the same transference issue with him that I had with my first (female) therapist - so I believe that he is correct. (Note, however, that my transference is not a sexual one - like others sex isn't high on my list of important things. I have read, though, that heterosexual clients can have sexual transferences with same-sex therapists (or viceversa)).
So, be a good therapist.
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