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Agendae » DaisyM

Posted by Dr. Rod on November 22, 2003, at 10:35:51

In reply to Re: Re: Curiosity vs Panic » Dr. Rod, posted by DaisyM on November 21, 2003, at 23:23:25

I asked if I had your permission to address each of your 4 concerns in turn... I accept your response as a "yes" and will go on... I'm curious why you're so bristly in your responses...

>>>I'm curious as to why I'm anxious right now!
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You appear to have unfinished business... If you were truly in a state of anxiety, you'd be tooooooo busy reassuring yourself, at a 1000 times a minute, to be curious... However, if you were anxious about unfinished business, you could multi-task and be curious at the same time...

>>>I'm curious as to why things that happened 30 years ago make me so sad...
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I'm curious; do you see what happened 30 years ago such that its so far in the past that it has a stillness with no background, and sort of grey or perhaps in black and white, and you're the only one in the picture??? Or, do you see full motion, with a background moving independently, with yourself in the foreground, and all in bright full color??? Is it the same vision in dream state???

>>>I'm curious as to why rechecking and redoing and resaying don't help me 5 minutes from now.
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By age 15, the genetic brain remapping is usually complete... Research has shown a significant number of Affective Disorder folks are reporting an as-if condition... Its as if the source of memory was lost in the remapping, yet the memory remains... Also, since not all memory is connected to sight, the remaining vision has a big hole in it... The good news is that 95% of the "Updating Process" is partially processed by vision, so when you "get it", from that point on (till Alzheimer’s...lol) you will have a new and reliable source for the old memory...

>>>I'm curious if you've ever REALLY been depressed. I am finding that I am unbelievably curious about how I got here and how I get out -- in fact my most asked question is How did this happen? And that is NOT a rhetorical question for me.
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I suppose if I tell you my Mom wouldn't let me be depressed, you would accuse me of being patronizing, so I won't... I have always been too busy and too curious myself to set the paralyzing "mind grind" in motion... "Mind grind" is my euphemism for what the mind is doing to a person during obsession; that 1000 laps per minute... Or, maybe I have been lucky this way...

As to repairing the "how did I get here", separating "what you did" from "who you are" is the toughest first step... If you refuse to take responsibility for what happened, fine... Then separate the "who THEY were" from "what THEY did"... The "outcome" is similar...

As in the book by Karen Hornay, beware of the "Tyranny of the Shoulds" and don'ts... Our research showed that shoulds and don'ts are fine for kids, but carried on into adulthood, they tend to flip over at the darnedest times... They are rooted in obligatory thinking, which is anti-optional by nature... "Outcome Thinking" can replace obligation and obligatory thinking, with the refreshing nature that all situations can have optional "outcomes" (results) to employ... Sorta like your flexibility treatise, don't ya' think???

How'd I do???


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