Posted by TexasChic on November 21, 2003, at 13:38:35
In reply to anyone else out there with similar feelings, posted by Kara720 on November 21, 2003, at 13:01:19
Hi Kara720. Has your psychologist ever mentioned anything about this being a co-dependent relationship? It was the last thing you said that made me think of this
<he knew how to make me feel like a queen, but then he would use it to get his way at times too. Many of times I felt like I was in a tug of war game because he could be determined and I am the type who gives in easily to avoid arguement. I just felt it was something small so why not give in a little. As I now know the small things add up>
He sounds like someone who is manipulative and willing to take advantage of your good nature. I've been through that kind of experience, and the dominant person can be very subtle in the way they use you to get their way. They know how to make you feel unbelievably guilty by not going along with what they want. I don't know if this is the circumstance you are in, but it sounded like it to me. If it sounds like it to you too, either speak with your psychologist or read up on co-dependence. It changed my life completely when I became aware of how I was letting other people control my life, and that I had the power to change it. Good luck!
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