Posted by DaisyM on November 4, 2003, at 11:06:39
In reply to Re: Finger crossing didn't work. :(((( (long), posted by Dinah on November 4, 2003, at 9:13:49
Oh Dinah,
There are things worth looking forward too...
Ok, some thoughts. You admitted to being nervous about seeing another therapist in the first place. Add to this insurance frustration (which I think is at least as destructive as road rage)and then disappointment about it not being "perfect" -- no EEG feedback, yet -- and I can see why you feel overall yuck about how it went. Plus, you had to defend your therapist, who you love and adore. Talk about too many hits at one time!
No matter how many times, or how long you've been in therapy it is always somewhat traumatic to reveal yourself to someone new. To give someone the list of "here is what is wrong with me" always reminds me of how terribly long that list is! And how far I still have to go.
So take a breath, let the bad stuff go and focus on the actual biofeedback techniques. THAT is what you are going for -- it is OK to disagree with this therapist, but you want to learn from him about one specific thing. If he is a strong CBT you won't be able to change him. We know that "one size does not fit all" -- but I don't think they do.
When my son started Biofeedback, he really liked the therapist who was doing it, and at the time, he was struggling with his own therapist because he was being pushed about underlying issues. He became very confused about who to tell what to and what to work on. We sorted it out for him like this: take what Biofeedback has to offer you -- calming the anxiety, getting rid of stomach aches, etc. and ignore everything else. Bring your symptoms to the sessions, not your issues. Save those for your therapist. That way he could focus on getting help around controlling his anxiety in different situations, which allowed him to not be so guarded during the biofeedback sessions.
I think all therapists in some way or another think they can "fix" a client, especially if they have a firm belief in a different technique.
Hang in there. The second session should be better. Did you ask about the skin/electrical feeling?
-D
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