Posted by fallsfall on October 1, 2003, at 14:44:31
In reply to Clear goals in therapy, posted by Penny on October 1, 2003, at 13:21:55
Hi Penny,
Yup, you need to talk to her about all of this. You can ask her if there are things that she has noticed that you should work on (i.e. for me, it would be splitting - black and white thinking). She will probably make you come up with some goals, like you did the last time - so you might want to have some in mind. Maybe a goal would be to figure out why you feel unstable, and what you can do about that.
Once you have goals, then it is easier to figure out what to talk about. I think most people do "The week in review", but that doesn't usually take very long.
I'm probably not the person to ask. I always had a list of things for my old therapist. It meant we had things to talk about (on the rare occasion that I ran out of things on my list, she would ask about things in my life). But I got the impression that she wanted me to be more spontaneous. I'm trying not to do the list thing with my new therapist (except for quickies on my week). He takes charge much more than my old one did. I'll be rattling on and he'll interrupt me and change the subject. I would have expected my CBT therapist to be more directive and my Psychodynamic one to be less directive, but it is the other way around. I spend less time talking about the mundane things in my life with my new one, and that gives us more time to work on issues.
So, now that I've proven that I have no idea what you should do... Since it bothers you, though, I think you should bring it up. I'm sure that she wants to be productive, too.
Let us know!
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