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Re: Feeling disconnected Pfinstegg, Judy, and all » Dinah

Posted by Pfinstegg on September 21, 2003, at 22:06:31

In reply to Re: Feeling disconnected Pfinstegg, Judy, and all, posted by Dinah on September 20, 2003, at 19:51:47

Hi Dinah.. I have to agree that feeling detached, more or less without intending to be, and without knowing why it has happened, is a very uncomfortable state to be in. I thought that your therapist gave a wonderful response- that he has enough to say for both of you for now. Why not let him do that- just allow yourself to be quiet and just as you are really feeling. He obviously wants very much to help you through this period, and sounds confident that he'll be able to do so. I would rather be ANYTHING than detached, but my therapist seems to feel that working through those hard times is more important than having a talkative, emotional me communicating easily, even though from my point of view I infinitely prefer the latter- but then that's the part that isn't sick!. Having had a very emotionally expressive week, just past, the thing I remember most about it is that he said "you seem to want to just keep talking like this, as fast as you can, so the other parts- (the ones I described in a post above)- can remain hidden". When he said that I knew it was true right away. It certainly made me stop and think how much I was avoiding the parts of me that I didn't want him to see. Well, I'll let you know whether I have had the guts to take him up on his suggestion this week! Probably only partially at best.

I'd be sad to learn that you cut down on your times now (unless you absolutely have to for financial reasons). I've read enough of your posts about your therapist to feel that you have a rich and growing relationship with him which has meant the world to you. Now you can allow yourself to be detached, unloving, indifferent, silent- he will still be there for you. Let him be.

Pfinstegg


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