Posted by ridesredhorses on September 18, 2003, at 5:28:38
In reply to ridesred, posted by kara lynne on September 18, 2003, at 2:06:11
I understand your confusion. Over the years I have been to some real 'doozies,' who wanted me to react a certain way...Don't get upset again but a BIG CLUE is anytime...ANYTIME...someone says their actions should be kept secret. The way he acted was HIS secret to keep, not yours. When we have been abused, this is a little confusing. Self-blame is our first reaction; we want so to be loved. And the other guy even suggesting you were at fault, in any way, is only a further indication that he, himslf, is an abuser or a potential abuser. Yes, that's right. You keep going. You are doing just fine. Really. Hope your sleep was good and that your day is peaceful.
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