Posted by fallsfall on September 10, 2003, at 6:56:47
In reply to Feelings tonight, posted by galkeepinon on September 10, 2003, at 0:05:44
Asking for help on a message board is not being self-centered. I see you respond a lot to other people, that is not being self-centered. If she's the only one who has said that, and then she apologized I think that you can think that noone has said that.
You sound like you are in a lot of pain. And you would like the pain to go away - that's quite reasonable. Pretending that things are OK doesn't make it better.
I'm glad you wrote your email. It can be hard to write about important things. I find that if I write it helps me to identify what is most important so that I can focus on that. It also helps me to "think it through" because if I am trying to explain things to someone else it has to be fairly clear in my mind. Getting feedback from others on your issues could help, too. Sometimes I make some pretty outlandish assumptions, but if someone points them out to me I can then think straighter on the issue. Sometimes if I talk to a friend, I find that other people have the same issue (and I thought I was the only one). Knowing that I'm not the only one sometimes makes it easier.
Do you have a therapist? Have you talked about these issues with him/her?
You can't do this alone. This is the time to ask friends and family to listen and help.
Let us know how we can help.
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