Posted by fallsfall on September 4, 2003, at 22:17:17
In reply to Re: Fees and meaning » kara lynne, posted by Dinah on September 4, 2003, at 16:20:07
Dinah,
All of the posters are right that you are a wonderful person and shouldn't feel that you are a burden on your therapist.
You said: "I just sort of assumed that it cost more to see him because I was so "frustrating"." I recall a post back in the Forever Therapy days (and I'll find it for you if I need to) where you said that he had said that you were his oldest client and that you could stay as long as you wanted? Well, at least the oldest client part if for sure. The point is that he was saying that you are special to him. I would give anything to have a therapist tell me that. You are special to him. He wanted you to be his patient. I think that his annoyance that you keep bringing up that you are a burden is because he keeps telling you that you are NOT, but you never hear him.
Why would he lie to you about this when he doesn't lie to you about anything else?
If he wasn't going away next week (the rat) I would suggest that YOU bring it up and duke it out.
You can't let these things fester. The therapy relationship is too important. The problem you are having with him (thinking that you are a burden) is a problem that you have elsewhere in your life. This is your chance to work on it.
(((((((((((((((Dinah))))))))))))))))))
P.S. My old therapist was $105 (PhD). My new therapist is $150 (PhD) - reduced to 135 for a couple of months. My old group therapist is $100. I went with the new guy instead of her because I thought he would do a better job. People will pay more if they think that they are getting more.
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