Posted by Larry Hoover on June 9, 2003, at 10:59:10
In reply to Re: responsibility vs. blame » Larry Hoover, posted by Dinah on June 8, 2003, at 15:46:13
> Hmmm, perhaps with all this help, I'm getting a glimmer.
That's very good news.
>But it takes a while for things to sink in for me.
That's how it is for everybody. When you try to grasp a new cognition, at first you find that to be difficult or impossible. But that's only because the cognition itself has no experiential base in your patterns of thinking.
You may get an "A-hah!" moment along the way, but that usually happens after the glimmer of comprehension has taken root in the psyche. The light-bulb moment is the recognition of the validity of the cognition in your real-time experience. Kind of like, "Oh, there's one! Now I get it!" But first, you have to have the glimmer. It's a process, not just for you, but for all people.
> It took me twenty years to understand the song "Amazing Grace".
Well, you're way ahead of me on that one. Amazing Grace is over my head (though I'll admit to not putting much effort into it).
>I'll cogitate on the matter, and hope for an ah-hah experience.
You will not get an "A-hah!" from cogitation. Cogitation may help you prepare yourself for the new idea, but the evidence comes from observation. You have to see yourself acting in the way predicted by the new cognition, to make it valid for you.
You may have seen my earlier posting of this phrase, but it speaks to this process, so I'll repeat it here:
"You can't think you way into a new way of acting, but you can act your way into a new way of thinking."
> Thanks for your patience. :)You're welcome. Thanks for having an open mind, and the courage to express your personal issues to us.
Lar
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