Posted by fallsfall on June 6, 2003, at 7:33:14
In reply to triggerish, posted by justyourlaugh on June 5, 2003, at 22:48:45
Asking for help is so hard. What do you ask for? Who do you ask? Do you have the right to ask? Will you hurt someone by asking for help? What happens if you ask for help and noone can give it?
But when you don't ask for help then you are left with only your thoughts and opinions and ideas. And if you are currently miserable, those are probably not enough. You need new ideas and new strength. You will only get those from outside yourself.
You can start small. Ask your wife for a hug. Tell a friend that you feel lousy, but you can't talk about it yet - you just need them to know you feel lousy. Post a message on a message board. Go somewhere (anywhere, grocery store, park, downtown street) where there are people - you don't have to talk to them, just be in the same place they are. The point is to show yourself that there are other people and they won't hurt you (and lots of them will want to help).
But you have to make the first move. You don't want things to stay as they are (if you did, you wouldn't have posted this message). Just a small step.
Good Luck.
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