Posted by mikhail99 on February 21, 2003, at 17:42:51
In reply to Re: Pinging Mikhail99, posted by pinkeye on February 21, 2003, at 13:13:58
> I am sorry to hear that you lost your job Mik. Good luck in your search.
> You are really brave in telling your therapist.
> I still don't have the courage and my marriage is going through a very rough phase as well.
> PinkEyeDinah, thanks for the hugs, I feel much better! :-)
PinkEye, I think that because your marriage is rocky right now is probably a good reason to tell your therapist how you feel. You can try what I did and write a letter, sit on it for two weeks (grin) and then mail it when you feel reasonably sure that it's ok to send. It's a good way to get your thoughts in order, and it gives both of you time to think about what to say. I think my therapist appreciated the letter because I timed it so he'd get it on a Friday when I knew we had a Monday appointment so he could think about what to say to me. He was really great about it and it's helped me to realize how much I was holding back because I was worried about what he'd think of me. He did issue one caveat though and that was if I had any expectations at all about a relationship with him other than the therapeutic one, we were done. And I really didn't, it was more of a crush/fantasy type thing.
But anyway, these feelings you have may be preventing you from dealing with what's going on with your marriage. Let me add that of course, I have no idea what's going on, so take what I say with a grain of salt.
Take care,
Mik
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