Posted by Eddie Sylvano on November 19, 2002, at 16:05:20
In reply to Ever at a loss for words in therapy?, posted by waterlily on November 19, 2002, at 15:25:09
> What would you do? I usually just stare at her bookcase and feel stupid because I can't think of what to say.
-----------------I usually would just launch into what I perceived my problems to be, what I thought about myself, what my frustrations are, how I felt different from everyone else, my fears, doubts, etc. Even if there wasn't any immediate issue at hand, I was always the same person, and there was a lifetime of accumulated thoughts about myself to go through.
My take on therapists is that they're just there to try to familiarize you with yourself. Get you to state your more formless beliefs about yourself (I'm unlovable, unappealing, etc) and then discuss them (and they're always ridiculous, which you'd have to admit to him, and he'd nod). His whole job seemed to be making you acknowledge that you held inaccurate ideas about yourself. Once I picked up on this, I didn't really see the need for him. I was aware that I was being unrealistic. Other people's therapists are probably different. your mileage may vary.
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