Posted by Medusa on August 30, 2002, at 2:50:22
In reply to Re: Couples therapy » bookgurl99, posted by Dinah on August 28, 2002, at 21:22:51
Have I already recommended _Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay_ by Mira Kirshbaum? You sound so adamant about staying together ... you might want to look at that. Examining this is scary, because you have to be open to leaving, but it'll give you some stability about your decision either way. You don't sound convinced that staying is really the best thing, or even what you want. Until you get that resolved, that uncertainty will get in the way in your relationship.
You can decide that it's best for you to leave, BUT that you want to stay together for reasons X, Y, Z. You need to know the price for this, and consciously pay it rather than slumping around and wasting your energy trying not to wake the rabid dog.
I read the book when I was thinking about leaving DH. Surprisingly, it convinced me in black and white that I had something good, that the best was to stay and work things out.
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