Posted by terra miller on August 16, 2002, at 14:13:31
In reply to Re: centering » terra miller, posted by judy1 on August 16, 2002, at 11:23:21
hi judy. centering can serve the purpose of grounding you, but i wouldn't say it's a grounding technique in what you described (feel your feet on the floor, etc.) you can prevent yourself from dissociating by centering- finding the small place inside of you that is good. sometimes you dissociate anyway, but i've found the dissociating to be less violent/angry if you know what i mean.
i read something interesting in that DID book i told you about (that is taking me forever to get through because i trigger after 2 pages!)... anyway, the point was that the goal that helps dissociating not happen as often is getting the client to the point when they can look at themselves and not be frighted or ashamed of what they see/or the behavior they see. this was profound to me because when i can't stand something, i just "change myself into someone i CAN stand." in this case it is adaptive, because i don't stay present long enough to dwell on the selfhatred that can lead to SI-ing. (of course, not that "I" do the changing. but i am aware enough--coconsciousness of sorts-- to know when i am no longer despising myself and in danger and now feel very competent and responsible. watching the whole thing happen is really weird. the only part i have in it all is trying to stay in the moment. sometimes it's too hard though.) anyway, thought i'd share that.
terra
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