Posted by sassyfrancesca on July 10, 2008, at 10:25:43
In reply to Lou's request for clarification-smknmhirors? » sassyfrancesca, posted by Lou PIlder on July 8, 2008, at 19:28:13
Lou; Your questions are a little confusing; if you want to know what spiritual abuse is you can go into: www.spiritualabuse.com; it is a support website for those abused spiritually; it describes what spiritual abuse is.
There are also books on spiritual abuse
In a nutshell, spiritual abuse is when a spiritual leader uses his own agenda to try and force you to do things against your will; blames and shames you.
Anytime a pastor/spiritual leader causes people to lose hope and want to commit suicide, that is abuse. He doesn't/did not have the skills to counsel women who were being abused. I am the moderator of an abused survivors' group, and have been counseling the abused for many years.
I was naive (as the other women were) in going to him for help; he was without a clue. He told one woman (who, according to the Bible) had grounds for divorce (her husband was committing adultery); this "pastor" told her she had to "stay" and still have sex with him, because it was her "duty."
Sad, sick counsel, indeed.
www.churchabusepoetrytherapy.comI was voted out of membership, with my name up on a big screen, followed by the words: "Conduct Unbecoming a Child of God." For the ex they used the words, "church discipline." Ironic...the ex is the abuser. Christians "shooting their wounded."
It happened 4 years ago; I am triggered by religious words; cannot go into any church now. That is what spiritual abuse does.
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