Posted by Dinah on July 13, 2002, at 13:21:12
> Lou, I'm going to ask you something that you may not want to answer, and if not please just say so. I do understand.
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> I'm not sure where this post should go, so I'm putting it on admin since it is about posts.
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> Sometimes, especially when Dr. Bob is gone for a few days and does not appear to be moderating the site, posters say things to you that would really hurt my feelings if they were said to me. Things that would make me very sad. And even though the posts are addressed to you, I feel the sadness as if they were addressed to me.
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> But sometimes I wonder if I am assuming too much to think that you are reacting to the posts the way I would - that your feelings are hurt as badly as mine would be. Sometimes I wonder if I am projecting my feelings onto you.
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> You rarely show hurt over the posts and you are always very forgiving. That is a wonderful quality. I admire how you always stay well within the civility guidelines. But it leads me wondering if you are feeling as much pain over the posts as I imagine you are.
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> This is a very presumptuous question I know, and again, feel free to ignore it or tell me you would rather not discuss it. It's just that the whole issue causes me such pain. And if you were willing to answer the question, if it would not be a problem for you to answer it, it might help me deal with the pain. But don't worry if you would rather not answer. It is my issue I know and I take full responsibility for my reaction.
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> Dinah
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