Posted by verne on May 8, 2007, at 7:22:12
In reply to Re: Dog Situation, posted by teejay on May 7, 2007, at 10:49:51
Teejay, you're right, I think, about the "controlling" bit and my daughter being under his "spell".
She explained away the replacement of two doors in their rental house before they bought their current house (from a friend of mine for 50% market value, no interest, no fees, and my friend threw in about $20,000 in appliances and extras) Yet my son-in-law raged, that I was trying to "ruin" them.
Both doors were kicked in - not normal wear and tear.
He's very controlling and what scares me is the two demolished doors and his rant at me. Never, in all my borderline days, have I heard such rage.
He's a "nice guy" but the doors and his phone call tell otherwise.
Sadly, my daughter has a kind of learning disability where she has trouble thinking for herself. She's a genius in math but can't think or comprehend what she's reading - or hearing. He fills in the gaps, constantly jabbering away. I can't talk to her on the phone without his input in the background.
He's a pathological liar. I've lost track of all the obvious lies. He claimed to be a "priest" for 3 years. He traveled the world, was in the military, and had tremedous credit. (He actually told Sarah he didn't use his credit cards for small stuff, so I ordered their latest computer on my card ($1,400).
When she talked about taking the SAT's and asked him about his scores, he said he couldn't tell her because she might feel bad. (nevermind that he's a high school drop out and they don't give SAT tests in Iowa)
He's an "expert" diver and swimmer (was on the team) yet won't go near water - now has a "phobia" about it. The BS goes on and on. I'd have to dig up old files for the more far-fetched parts.
What's scary is the way he treats the dog and the rage he displayed towards me when I complained. I've always strained at giving him the benefit of the doubt but now I'm questioning everything.
My daughter seems to be trapped and committed. I may call in a psychologist for an intervention. (not for me, but for him) My life is over. I wish I could step into a disintegration chamber.
I wish I weren't even part of the equation.
verne
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