Posted by Larry Hoover on December 16, 2003, at 10:01:01
In reply to Extreme Shyness, posted by taylor18 on December 16, 2003, at 5:03:07
> What are the best supplements to take for profound shyness? I'd like to be taken out of myself :-). I couldn't find much online relating to this. Anyhow, I feel it interferes with what I'd like to be doing. I don't/can't do what feels natural/right because I'm thinking so much about what the other person is thinking. I'd really like to get rid of this problem.
I think your best strategy is cognitive. If you use a substance, you'll never gain confidence that you can do it, all by yourself.
I am pathologically shy. But you wouldn't know that today. If you met me, you'd gain quite a different impression of me. Yet deep inside, that kernel of shyness remains. It is a trait, an inborn characteristic. But, via cognitive coping strategies, I am no longer substantially impaired by it.
One of the first things that helped me, and gave me the insight to see that cognitive tools are useful for shyness, was when a friend said to me, "You wouldn't worry so much about what people thought of you, if you realized how seldom they did."
Lar
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