Posted by Jai on November 22, 2003, at 8:06:58
In reply to Re: Oh, Lar, what a complicated life we lead » Jai, posted by Larry Hoover on November 22, 2003, at 7:23:12
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> > Wow, that's even more incredible than I thought !
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> Why so?In my observation the marriage of a scientist and the environment is sweet. That you had choosen that direction shows your generosity that continues today.
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> Classic nervous breakdown. In a relatively brief period of time, I lost my academic world, my home, my life savings, my wife and kids, my health, my dad was near death, my eldest son was being investigated for a brain tumour (turned out to be migraines)....a tad too much stress.
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You definitely had much too much on your plate.
My partner's mental breakdown began with his 2 1/2 year old son's untimely death. Sometimes these life experiences precipitate a breakdown sometimes they accompany a breakdown that was coming anyway. My mothers family of 7 children there were only 4 that made it to old age. Of the 3 who died much too young, one (he was the oldest) was a celebrated brilliant doctor and in his thirties became Bipolar and took his own life. Of the 4 that lived: 2 were alcoholics 2 bipolar. The two Bipolars were in my life since my birth. My mom and her brother. I have never liked anything but the truth. The truth is sometimes hard for people to take when it's so painful to hear. I was very careful not to burden others with my life struggles. Sometimes it was just too much and spilled over out of my control, I just could not contain it. People weren't all that exicted to hear about mental breakdowns: really they cringed and turned away. I am not afraid to hear about mental illness or look directly at what it's all about. I have my theories about mental illnesses. Sometimes I wished I had become a doctor....I had the impression way back in the 1950's that it had something to do with diet and chemicals.
> You seem so kind and considerate to everyone who posts, so you must have this_____ under control...
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My mother was not kind or considerate within her life & illnesses. So I appreicate kindness when I see it.
> Thank you. I manage, but I'm not well, ya know?
I guessed you might be having a hard time but when you chat on these babble topics you appear so healthy... Honestly I don't know how you are not well? If you care to share I would love to hear. I hope I am not being too much. I am totally sincere. Thanks Lar, for being so up front with me. You don't have to answer my questions if you don't want to. I will totally accept what ever you want to do.
Jai
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