Posted by Lou Pilder on November 14, 2014, at 16:50:08
In reply to Lou's request-skehypgaux? » oceansun, posted by Lou Pilder on November 14, 2014, at 16:06:04
> > I was scared because his post to me was one of the first ones I read. My first response was actually shock. I've only recently resurfaced, and I remember the board 10+ years ago when it was a big source of support and knowledge to me. From what I understand from The New York Times article, it was still flourishing in 2010.
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> > What I've seen on this board lately still retains that care and compassion and curiosity, but the sheer number of people posting has dropped dramatically. Shockingly. I certainly can't speak for any member, past or present, but I myself wish more people were able to gain the sort of support and information offered here.
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> > So, I wonder, although I don't know how long Lou has been posting, has he, or similar people, been a factor in the decrease in posters? Has he been turning off new people who could contribute to the site? He's clearly more scary, and prolific, than other unpleasant posters I remember. Unfortunately, because of the small size of the board, his voice is pretty loud. And I honestly think he would have been blocked in the past.
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> > I don't think it's a matter of triggers -- many people seem to ignore him, though I'm guessing pretty annoyed that he's still around -- but of maintaining the health and wellness of the board as a whole, and encouraging growth, if that is wanted, of course.
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> > I continue to post, and am posting this post, simply because I remember the board of the past and thus was able to look past his post to the wonderful other posters here. I don't read his posts. It's the new and potential posters I am worried about, who don't have prior knowledge of the board and might just be turned off immediately, and the current members who might get discouraged and leave.
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> > Of course, there could be many other reasons for the downturn in posters in the past few years. I'm really curious about this, and concerned -- if anyone has any thoughts about this, I would appreciate any input.
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> > > > I just wonder, why isn't Lou blocked? ... His first post to me scared me, and I can see how a new member might not post again with his responses.
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> > > > I'm greatly saddened by it.
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> > > Sorry about not replying more promptly.
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> > > I'd feel sad, too, if feeling scared kept people from posting. In this case, yes, I could block one trigger. (And I plan to add a Refuge board that would be more safe/less tolerant.) In general, however, it's impossible just to do away with triggers. My idea is that support and encouragement might help counteract fear. How were you able to overcome feeling scared and post again?
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> > > Bob
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> > o_s,
> You wrote,[...the sort of information and support offered here...or similar people...he is clearly more scary...other unpleasant posters...I'm ge(t)(t)ing pretty annoyed that he's still around...was able to look past his post to the wonderful other posters here...I don't read his posts...].
> As I am your subject person named, there could be a subset of readers influenced by what you wrote to have induced into them hostile and disagreeable feelings and opinions about me and decrease the respect, regard and confidence in which I am held. I base this on the fact that the grammatical structure of your post leaves one open to think different things about me , so if you could answer the following, then I could respond accordingly and it could be known what you want readers to think about me.
> A. If you are getting annoyed that you see me around here, what is it about me that makes you annoyed?
> B. If you post a reason here, is it in your opinion a rational reason, and if so, why?
> C. What is the information that you want people to gain here?
> D. Does my posting keep others from obtaining that information? If so, why?
> E. What is it that you see that I write, if you do see something of mine, that is more scary?
> F. If there are wonderful posters here, am I included in that subset of posters, and if not, why not?
> G. If I am not included by you in that subset, (redacted by respondent)
> H. If you do not read my post, how do you know that I am clearly more scary?
> I. Are you familiar with the criteria used to determine if when one uses a person as a subject person, if the criteria to determine if the post is an anti-Semitic post such as using a person that is Jewish as a scapegoat for the real or imagined ills of a community?
> Lou
Friends,
Here is a post and look at what Jane said that is plainly visible.
Lou
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20130702/msgs/1047738.html
poster:Lou Pilder
thread:1073111
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20140902/msgs/1073464.html