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Re: the big picture

Posted by Dr. Bob on July 11, 2013, at 9:50:14

In reply to Re: the big picture » sleepygirl2, posted by sleepygirl2 on July 10, 2013, at 21:16:33

> Is there some reason you can't or won't just come out and say you aren't willing to moderate any more?
>
> gardenergirl

> Are you saying that you don't intend to do anything with posts like the ones that have been brought to your attention?
>
> If you say that you think those rules are fine under the existing rules, we can decide what to do.
>
> If you say they may not be but you have no intention of enforcing existing rules (and also have no intention of clarifying the new ones), then we can decide what to do.
>
> Dinah

Sorry about being cryptic. I know I get that way sometimes.

I'm willing to moderate.

When I'm notified of posts, I'm enforcing existing rules and responding either on the board or to the posters who notified me. One exception is that I think right now it may be good for this community as a whole, and for me, to leave some of Lou's notifications outstanding.

--

> > Perhaps something related to legal advice or action of some sort?
>
> This is what I am thinking.
>
> - Scott

> What seems to baffle us is why would someone with consummate power to make and change the rules ever be stuck?
>
> Toph

> You sound a bit peeved, now. Did the mirror stung a little bit?
>
> gardenergirl

10der asked before what I meant by "the old model". Another aspect of it was relying on the power to define and enforce boundaries for acceptable behavior. That was how the administration made this a refuge.

It's tempting to turn to power and, I suppose, fear. As a response and as an explanation: if what I'm doing doesn't make sense, maybe someone else is more powerful or making me feel afraid.

A mirror is an alternative to power (or maybe a different kind of power). I confess I've tried a mirror, with the hope that it might sting a little.

--

> > Do you ever find yourself between a rock and a hard place? What do you do then?
>
> All the time.
> I go underground, surrender.
> It's a battle you can't fight.
> There's no winning.

> If I can't solve a problem, I just accept it, and make a decision in my best interest.... Hopefully
> Like for instance,
> Not reading Lou's posts
> Not because I care all that much, I do, a little, but there's not a damn thing I can do about it.
>
> sleepygirl2

> OMgosh, you rock, gg!!
>
> This whole post is *precisely* what I've been wanting to say for days/weeks.
>
> Why I couldn't be so clear beats me, but it doesn't matter who does it, and now you have captured the essence - thank you, thank you!
>
> 10derheart

> Thanks. One of Dinah's recent posts helped these thoughts come together for me. Still a good team. :)
>
> gg

That's what I'm thinking, too. There's no winning. But maybe surrender isn't the only other choice.

1. I can make a decision in my best interest, or the best interest of Babble.

2. And if there are others with me between that rock and that hard place, maybe together we can learn ways to cope and find the energy to persevere.

Bob


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