Posted by Dinah on August 1, 2010, at 8:50:30
In reply to Re: Appreciation, posted by Dr. Bob on August 1, 2010, at 2:43:33
> But I think there's something to be said for it not being completely private. If people can see which posts a poster appreciates, that could help them help that poster in the future. And if they can see the point totals of other posters, that would give them a context for their own point total.
Those are both things that I object to, so while something can certainly be said *of* if, I'm not sure if I see anything to say *for* it.
I'm sorry you chose not to respond to my post. I hope you didn't see it as an insult. I saw it more as an effort to feel more positively about you by understanding you better. An experiment in sociology or anthropology or something. Not unlike what you do with us. And while I know that you aren't here for support and education, but for Administration, if those questions are part of Administration on one side, aren't they part of Administration on both?
I've seen you twice in person. Both times it struck me that you were both polite and very... I can't think of the word. You were interested in other people and their points of view. You were careful to phrase yourself so as to be respectful of them. You were even adept at responding to me on occasion in such a way that I understood that I had been less than tactful, without ever making me feel bad about being less than tactful. Yes, you were very polite, tactful, interested in others, and very very civil.
Which is why I really really *really* don't understand why you don't understand what I'm saying here.
Unless your proposed changes, which I confess are still a bit too complicated for me to grasp, are intended to indicate that you *do* understand how this could be hurtful to posters?
I like the opt out, of course.
But what I'd really like is for you never to show on any given thread which people were thanked. On the one hand, I'd like the opportunity to post *my* appreciation to anyone who wasn't appreciated by the originating poster (as long as they were civil of course). On the other hand, it might cause a lot of bad feelings among posters, which would decrease the overall civility on board. And it might give me information I'd just as well not know about the originating poster.
Especially if I don't understand what values other people were taught on the topic of appreciation, if they weren't the ones taught by my mother.
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