Posted by Dinah on July 22, 2010, at 16:46:14
In reply to Re: Check This Out! Bob Shares........... » Dinah, posted by violette on July 22, 2010, at 15:40:57
It's not that I don't think your points are as valid as mine, or that I mind you fussing at Dr. Bob, even. Everyone fusses at Dr. Bob - myself included, and that's fine by me. Certainly in my eyes there is reason enough at times.
But I do draw a distinction between Dr. Bob and other Babblers. You've mentioned a couple of times now that you've found a more supportive place or that Babble wasn't supportive, and I felt hurt because I did try to be supportive to you, and so did many others I think.
I do try to answer unanswered posts, even if I don't particularly think I can be overly helpful. Because I think the act of caring can be helpful in itself. It does feel bad not to be answered. I'm not alone either. I see many people who answer posts that haven't gotten many replies. Because so many of us know how it feels to be excluded.
That's one reason I hate the helpful/unhelpful idea. I know sometimes I answer posts even if I'm not sure what to say, even if I don't think I have the answers, even if I haven't been overly helpful to a particular poster in the past. If I'm going to be negatively judged because my answer isn't really all that "helpful" I think I'd be way less likely to answer.
If your comments were directed to Dr. Bob and not to other Babblers, then I misunderstood them and apologize for the defensive tone of my post. I just felt defensive for those of us who have chosen to stay and who do try to do our best, even with the extra difficulties that Dr. Bob's decisions sometimes present us with. I stay here for the Babblers that remain, not for Dr. Bob. Although I confess that at times I can be fond enough of him. At times he can be funny and even (gasp!) insightful. At other times I wonder if we're both earthlings.
I've been other places too. But I've never been anywhere where there were more mature, sensible, and *kind* posters than at Babble. If we agree on that, then we have no argument at all.
poster:Dinah
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