Posted by Dinah on July 1, 2010, at 13:54:18
In reply to Re: the system here, posted by fayeroe on July 1, 2010, at 12:06:36
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> > ***But he does acknowledge the needs of both. That's why unlike some sites he doesn't block people permanently.***
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> I have to speak to the above, Dinah. You have never been blocked for 6 months or a year, right? Believe me when I say those blocks feel like forever. My longest block was 16 weeks but I've kept in touch with people who have had much longer blocks. A block of that length pulls everything they need away from them.I sometimes wonder if it would be kinder to block forever. A long block keeps the ties to the site.
> For someone to be banned at Psych Central means they have done something so horrible that they can't be dealt with any other way. That person generally has no remorse about what they've said or done. Private messages go to the poster first and John tries to work with them. The banning comes only after John and his moderators determine that it is the only way to handle the problem. I know that 2 people have been banned at PC....maybe more since I left. I doubt it. I want to mention that there aren't any PBCs there. It is left to the posters to settle minor disputes.
Yeah. I experienced that. I, for the most part, quit posting there because I was left to settle a minor dispute myself. While I'm perfectly capable of doing it, it's not an environment that suits me. So effectively I was blocked by that policy in that a source of support is no longer really available to me. It suits many. Some it does not.
> When the FB mess came up Bob didn't talk to me about it, as you are aware. He blocked me. I don't care that much about being blocked. My investment here is teensy. I cared that no one got any information that would have helped us understand what happened. I saw no concern for the feelings of the upset posters.I didn't agree with that block. I thought that while you hadn't used the words "I'm sorry" you were in a dialogue with Dr. Bob and showed more openness than many a person who says the actual words without any real regret.
Dr. Bob likes everything to be very clear I think. I wish he'd have been open to nuances that time. I won't say that I wish you had mouthed an apology even if you didn't mean it, because I'm not so sure that's an outcome Dr. Bob should be encouraging. But I am sorry you were blocked. And I appreciate the openness you did show, and admire you for it.
> Anything over a month is ridiculous. I don't care who owns the site. It is a punishment that is much worse than the crime.
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> I believe that Bob knows that.I think if he knew that he wouldn't do it. And for that matter, I don't think it's always true. My thoughts on the matter is that if someone isn't willing to live by site rules a month isn't long enough and a year isn't long enough. In my ideal universe, blocks would be the length of time it took for someone to agree to abide by site guidelines, whether they like them or not. I guess I see that as part of our agreement to posting here. If that's a week, then the poster should be welcomed back. If it's not true in a year, then maybe this site isn't the best fit. The onus shouldn't lie with Admin, it should lie with the poster.
But that's me. Based on the better part of what my mama taught me. Obviously Dr. Bob doesn't agree.
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