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Re: Dr. Bob

Posted by muffled on November 9, 2009, at 20:30:41

In reply to Re: Dr. Bob » TexasChic, posted by Dinah on November 9, 2009, at 19:38:11

> The only way for it to stop being dead is for those who feel comfortable to post.

*yes, if your comfortable having your posts forever archived( and fully googlable) available to anyone, then post.

If your all right with a website that is run by someone who doesn't pay any heed to posters concerns, then go ahead and post.

If your all right with a website that banishes others for chunks of time for pretty minor offences, for confusing rules noone actually fully understands, then go ahead and post.

If your into allowing adminstration to repeatedly abuses your trust that they have your best interests at heart, then go ahead and post.

If you like an adminstration that comes and goes on a whim(sometimes mysteriously dissapearing for months at a time), then post here.

If you like a site where noone will be deputy becuase the admin doesn't back them up or listen to them, and in fact totally bailed on them for chunks of time with no word, then post here.

If your into being on a very wide open, easily searchable, not very private, ever changing 'community' where to be safe, communications need to be pretty darn careful, then go ahead and post.

******BUT*******

If you want to be safe, don't post here.

If you want a more intimate community, then don't post here.

If you want to be able to talk a bit more openly, don't post here.

If you want more consistant caring adminstration, don't post here.

If you don't want your trust abused, don't post here.

Me, I am here only becuase, you know what? I AM angry. I am very angry with how Bob has treated people here.
I am not good at allowing people very close. I did so here. And they were so kind to me. I was safe with the community, but not with Bob, so I had to leave.
Now I see people falling into the same repetative pattern as I was in. Of SO wishing to be able to trust Bob, to be so hoping that THIS time it would be different....but it never was, and STILL ISN'T.
Its like watching someone in an abusive relationship going back to their abusive partner.
HE HAS NOT CHANGED.
If you are not bothered by Bobs behaviour, then STAY!!!! but if you are, AT ALL, then GET OUT. He will do the same bloody thing again.
I am angry and dismayed that people seem not to recognize his behaviour for what it is.
At some point I am just going to have to walk away from this beacause it is very upsetting to me. Its just I am not one to walk away w/o some sort of a fight from what I see as wrongdoing, and to not make some attempt to stop abuse, or at least make it known, so that others can have their eyes open


> I don't want to see Babble die. I've tried to start a post, but haven't been able to. I've responded to the posts of others.

*Its SO HARD to walk away Dinah :( But you know it will just be the same :(

> If enough people feel able to start posts, maybe enough people will feel able to reply and trust may slowly be rebuilt. If nothing happens to shake it.

*"if nothing happens to shake it"- but it will. Always has. Bob still doesn't understand what we are trying to tell him.
It is not safe here, if a caring, safe, connected, confiding community is what your looking for...
this is NOT the place.
I don't think Bob is miraculously going to change, hasn't up to this point in time. He still doesn't understand.
HE JUST TRAMPLED on us here. Made NO consideration as to what we might feel.
And when we did express discomfort, did he acknowledge and slow down and consider us??? NO! Just barged ahead full steam.
After the fact he tries to clean up.
Thats b*llsh*t.
Yeah, I am mad.
I don't like seeing my friends treated like stupid brainless people that have no value or valued opinion.
I don't like seeing friends who try and help a guy, who did ALOT to help a guy, and he treated them bad. Talked to them when it suited HIM. Dissapeared w/o a word. Didn't heed what they had to say.
Ya I AM mad.
And Ya I'll proly get blocked and perhaps this is just as well.
Cuz I am NOT one to bash people. I like to give people the benefit of the doubt. Almost too much.
Well I gave Bob the benfit of the doubt, over and over.
And I still think he is not evil, but just misguided.
Though I must admit, I used to like to think he cared.....but after this last thing....I have now finally accepted that....sadly...I don't think he does, not really. He COULDN'T and do what he has done.
Its sad.
I wish Bob well in what he does.
But I am not sure he should be administering a website, esp a mental health one, when he is so inconsistantly there, and when he doesn't even follow the basic rules(what Deneb found) about how to take care of your community.
I didn't used to want to see babble die, cuz it meant so much to me.
But now, sadly, I kinda wished it would, so that others don't have to go thru this cycle.
The only way I can see babble continuing, in some better safety, is for Bob to make some of the suggested changes, but MOSTLY, for Bob to turn the administration *fully* over to someone OTHER than himself. Someone who will ACTUALLY listen, someone who will work WITH the deputies as a team, someone who will be here more consistantly, someone who has more people skills.
Let Bob just do the computer geek stuff- with permission/ acceptance of the deputies/new administrator.
My thots.
I really hope people will listen to reality here...
Don't invest too much here, cuz admin will SEEM to listen, but he doesn't, not really. Just does what he wants.
Be safe, post VERY carefully.
M

 

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