Posted by Dinah on November 2, 2009, at 14:24:24
In reply to Re: another cycle, posted by Dr. Bob on November 2, 2009, at 14:13:19
You know I am always open to rapprochement, not just with you, but in general.
Will you be willing to commit to bring these things up on board before doing them? This could have all turned out so differently if you'd have just talked about it first. Part of the reaction was just seeing the links there with no warning, no explanation, no nothing. The same compromise could have been reached without all the distress.
When I asked that you show us the same respect we should ideally show you, that's part of what I meant. That you explain instead of having us try to guess. And that you try to listen to what we're actually saying. If we say you aren't hearing, could you stop and listen?
I admit that I wasn't always as prudent and reasonable as I would like to see myself as being. There are things that push my buttons big time, and this contained a lot of them. The topic of bullying is huge for me. As is respect. And expectations of you.
Are you saying that you found yourself upset that people jumped to the worst possible conclusions?
If we're willing to try to give you the benefit of the doubt, are you willing to commit to giving us information ahead of time, and listening to our concerns ahead of time?
If there's a bigger problem here than the most obvious, and I think maybe there is, isn't it important that both sides talk about what their expectations of each other might be?
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