Posted by Ralph.U.K on April 23, 2007, at 21:04:18
In reply to Re: Just a couple of those answers.... » Racer, posted by Larry Hoover on April 23, 2007, at 18:22:06
The ability to post to someone does not always mean open communication. I've had more satisfying conversations with trees than with some of those with the dubious gift of speech.
A person in a manic state or certain disorders of personality can cause people to become unknowingly beligerant and self important. They will insist that if they were only listened to, the stupid would finally come to see their wisdom.To someone on the recieving end this can be exhausting and feel abusive. They have every right to request that somewhat not post to them.
I've only been on a couple of boards that have the Do not Post policy or reasonably close rule, and I've never seen it as punitive or a way to take the mickey out of someone it's a simple mature way to resolve an unresolvable situation.
Never have I been tempted to stay within the rules on a technicality but ignore the plea behind the request and speak around them, that's highly disrespectful. What desperate need is it that forces one to demand the right to speak to every single poster, no matter how uncomfortable the poster may be?
On a web forum I would be very uncomfortable demanding to speak to someone who I knew didn't want to hear from me. What does that say? My desire, my RIGHT to speak to you trumps your feelings about me. In life some things need to be resolved, on a web forum it's about the exchange of story and opinion, and bloody hell that should be an option! We're not planning emergency exits for jet planes for Chr*st sake.
I recieved a D.N.P once. It didn't send me up a gum tree. I hae enough respect for other members to acknowledge that their sensitivities may not be mine own, and they are entitled to the safety of not having them belittled because I can't fathom the reasoning behind them, or intellectualize the poor fools out of feeling that way.
Mr. Hoover I've seen you on many boards, and have been at times awestruck at the amount of energy you expend just hammering at people to agree with you. Typically it escalates or descends to the obfuscating debating school jargon, and then to that of the courts.
If that doesn't work you'll try another tactic, and then another and then finally you pull to what looks to me, like verbal abuse or contempt, depending upon which board it is and what's permitted. I've felt harassed by watching and had fantasies of putting my hand over your mouth. I hear posts as well as see them. I see a connection between that, and your very personal reaction to the D.N.P.
Those who "obey" you are coddled and fawned over, until they cross a line. Not once over many years (face it you're everywhere) have I ever seen you acknowledge another's point, or say something akin to "I'll think about that"
Call it what you will sir, there may be many words involved but it's not open communication.
I'm not clear on the rules here, I hope that was at least a passable attempt at propriety.
A quote on the rules of effective writing which springs to mind presently.
I can't recall the author but I think the advice stellar.
If you are reading your own writing and find a line of which you are particularly proud, strike it out-
immediately.
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