Posted by Honore on January 25, 2007, at 11:02:30
In reply to Re: what about blocks resulting in PTSD...possible » zazenduckie, posted by Llurpsie_Noodle on January 25, 2007, at 8:57:09
> I am also triggered and very upset and saddened when one of the community is forced out because of an infraction that seems trivial. I think that the punishment rarely fits the crime on this site. I have also given up trying to change things on babble. I am only writing about this because I find that it helps me understand my own reactions to blocks and I am very much interested in your suggestion that PTSD/InternetAddiction/Psycho-Babble may cause certain posters to react in an extremely maladaptive fashion to a block.
This seems to me to be the main problem, ie that most of us are really disturbed and even threatened when one of us is blocked. I know we all would like to avoid that happening. At the same time, sometimes, each of us might actively want one person or another to be blocked--or, if not blocked, to be somehow taken to task-- because of something they've done that upsets or angers us. So it's a conundrum.
My sense is that, on one hand, there's something very constructive about the support that happens when we're blocked. I thought about this before, because it helps us to feel stronger in the face of someone's disapproval, or rejection of something we've done- ie to feel that we still are okay. Which to me at least is a very important struggle.
Yet, at the same time, when someone can't feel that, but experiences a block simply as destructive of their own reserves of potential good feeling about themselves, esp. to a dangerous degree, it is extremely troubling. It's hard to know if some of us have become more self-destructive-- or if the people most fearful about that are the ones of us not blocked, whose fantasties about the power of each of us to harm others are more intense than the harm actually inflicted by the block.
> > I don't understand the rules. I know some people say they do. But some don't. Those who don't are in an impossible situation when Bob overrides their own knowledge of what their post is meant to say. They are powerless even to define the meaning of their own posts.
I know it seems counterintuitive, but no one can define the meaning of anything they say. This is a crucial principle of interpretation-- ie a text does not define its own meaning-- I know that we all feel as though we are the authors of our own meaning- but as authors, we're subject to the interpretations of our readers. Not to grind a point in too much-- but it is a principle axiom of interpretation- ie human interaction.
Oops, I've got to run. I hope nothing I've said here is uncivil. I don't mean to be. I really feel all the things that people here have expressed, I'm just also wondering how it really ever could be otherwise.