Posted by Deneb on June 30, 2006, at 12:32:03
In reply to Re: Obligations here *trigger » Deneb, posted by Glydin on June 30, 2006, at 8:14:04
> I believe holding health care licenses of various types does hold a person to a possible different level of expected conduct.
I believe some people believe this to be true, but is it really? It's expected, but is it obligatory?
> As I’ve said before, a simple friendly exchange between Dr. Bob and anyone posting here doesn’t seem like it SHOULD carry any level of problem but I’m not sure it doesn’t. At the very least, we all are responsible for our actions - posters and Dr. Bob alike.
Just curious, what are the consequences to my one way interaction with Dr. Bob?
> In regard to your question about intervening in a situation - he has been known to take very specific action if someone has actively and specifically threaten self harm here. So, it would seem to me that gives weight to his level of obligation.
I'm pretty sure it's not about obligation, but more about being a good Samaritan. Intervening is about helping someone out of the goodness of one's heart, I don't think it's about obligation. I've read something Bob wrote about whether or not there is any obligation for him to intervene when people threaten suicide. He said No because there isn't any relationship between him and that person. I don't remember where I read this. Dr. Bob? Can you give the source? Now, if he started interacting with that person, then there might be some obligation.
Hmmmm....I think I get it now. Dr. Bob doesn't want to interact with us because he doesn't want to get in trouble if he doesn't intervene to stop a suicide! I think you should lighten up Dr. Bob, I don't think anyone is going to kill themselves any time soon. Also, I'm sure you don't get into much trouble if you are friends with someone and don't stop their suicide. People might look at you negatively, but I don't think you'll get into any legal trouble.
This reminds me of something I told my pdoc when I was having suicidal ideations. I told her not to worry about being sued after I kill myself because my family won't do that. She laughed! Then I laughed.
> Maybe try and consider it this way: If you will at least try and entertain the thought that MAYBE, given the circumstances of your “knowing” of Dr. Bob is through this site and MAYBE wanting to have a friendship of him interacting with you could be problematic for him, and given you care for him, MAYBE being content with and accepting of the level involvement he chooses to have with you would be showing sensitivity toward his feelings - that would be a good thing, don’t you think?
Yes. I agree, but I also like to think that he can handle my attempts to interact with him. However, I will try to be content with his current level of involvement.
> I’m trying to be helpful, Deneb.
I know. I appreciate all the effort you're taking to explain your thoughts on this. :-)
> I’ve actually liked this exchange we’ve had. It’s made me think and I learn from you. That’s a good thing for me.