Posted by James K on January 8, 2006, at 18:10:21
In reply to Can we work together to figure out what to do?, posted by Dinah on January 7, 2006, at 11:27:47
I've been following this and mostly staying out, but it is on my mind a lot. Mainly because in a short time this place has become important to me, and that is being lost temporarily.
I've been looking all over the site, looking for an actual quote of this, but couldn't find one - but basically, we all know this is about people with mental illness. That means some of us are going to be in crisis, out of sorts, irrational, or just having a bad day, at any given time. I've been all of those in just two weeks time.
There has been talk of splitting social or making a fun board. I don't really like that idea. Here as in real life, someone may come along and spoil the party once in a while. My feeling is that is something to accept.
The civility standard wether enforced exactly right is the only thing that makes this board work. I've only been on the web for a few weeks, but my attempts to find other sites just turns up unmoderated trolls and spam with none of the support and friendship I see here.
Now I want to discuss the actual events that led to all this controversy. It might be tricky, but I'll try to do it without making things worse.
The social board says it is for (from memory) support, discussion, and "just having fun". It started to seem to me that deneb was confusing the three. Hourly reports of self harm thoughts and behaviors then repenting then going back. In the civil rules, joking about self-harm and suicide is uncivil. Some of that stuff felt frivolous and not serious to me.
Then we get back to my original point - some of us are in different stages of different illnesses.
The repeated posting seemed uncivil to me, and I wonder if this could have been addressed off-site, to make sure this was legitimate and not games, before we ended up with Larry blocked and anger and hurt feelings all around.
If talking about this directly like this is itself uncivil, then I will think about it and decide if I should have said it differently or not at all.
James K
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URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20051205/msgs/596732.html