Posted by Racer on August 4, 2005, at 17:50:06
In reply to Lou's reply to gg-askfridentifcton? » gardenergirl, posted by Lou Pilder on August 4, 2005, at 17:37:54
> gg,
> You have asked me in some way,[... what prevents me from asking Nikki if she is referring to me...].
> That I will answer when I have the time, for my answer is very complex.OK, why not take the time to answer it now? You're asking for a lot from a lot of other people, Lou, and so I would very much hope that you'd be willing to offer something in return. Isn't that fair? How about you take the time to answer that question now, and then -- fair play -- someone can answer your next question?
> But could I ask you what your opinion is as to why NikkiT2 has not identified the poster that she writes,[...someone here threatened to sue me for defamation...]?
Perhaps it's because by asking in a general way, she does not create a situation in which someone feels accused or put down, thus stays within the civility guidelines for this site. Obviously, this isn't 100%, since you seem to feel that the post in question was referring to you. In law, though, there is the "Reasonable Person" test, where you basically ask what a hypothetical Reasonable Person would believe. In this case, I think Nikki has passed the Reasonable Person test.
If you think that she's referring to you, you can ask her directly, rather than continuing to behave as if her post definitely does refer to you. That would help keep Nikki from feeling accused and put down, which she has stated she does feel. Dr Bob has made a ruling about this in the past, Lou, and you're ignoring it now. What are we to interpret from this behavior?
And isn't it pretty close to the line regarding civility -- the part about not posting things that make others feel accused or put down?
> Also, could you ask NikkiT2 to identify the poster that wrote that NikkiT2 is referring to in,[...someone here thretened to sue me for defamation...]?
> LouThat's something which, in order to stay within the guidelines of this site as I understand them, she cannot do in a post. Perhaps if you were to ask her privately? Or ask Dr Bob privately?
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