Posted by Minnie-Haha on May 24, 2005, at 15:30:38
In reply to Re: Dr Bob: question about being blocked or PBC'd? » Minnie-Haha, posted by gardenergirl on May 23, 2005, at 18:26:06
> I accept that your intentions when posting were not to point out a specific poster, and that you were rather asking about a behavior.
Thank you from the bottom of my twisted little heart.
> I think perhaps that since there really is only one poster who exhibits said behavior (to my knowledge), it appeared fairly obvious, at least to me, who's behavior you were hypothetically referring to. I really don't know any way around that other than perhaps to email Dr. Bob privately or to directly ask the poster to stop.
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> And even if many or even most posters exhibited the same behavior, the statement you made speculating about intentions behind the behavior (either/or) suggested to me that those were the only two options. I suspect that Dr. Bob viewed the option that a person might not care whether the behavior hurts others as being likely to lead to anyone who exhibits that behavior possibly feeling put down as "uncaring".
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> Just my interpretation of the situation...I think your arguments are some of the best, but (do I hear eyes rolling?)...
My statement wasn't an either/or. I won't repeat it all, for fear of getting blocked again, but I will quote its form: "That brings us to AT LEAST TWO possibilities. One is... The other is..." I never said that others' suggestions were wrong, or that these were right, or that there couldn't be a host of others. I was trying to make the point that intentions are many (and debatably provable). I shouldn't have waded into the intention debate, but we were getting nowhere with behavior vs. intention.
As for how to handle discussing a behavior that only one person is known to exhibit, I think if no-one has ever brought it up for discussion before, it would be nice to email the doctor or poster privately, but if the behavior has been brought up repeatedly by others -- well, it seems like it's out there: a problem that is going to keep arising and keep getting discussed, unless a civility rule goes up saying you can't question the behavior of someone who is the only one who exhibits that behavior.
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