Posted by alexandra_k on May 23, 2005, at 18:05:59
In reply to Re: Dr Bob: question about being blocked or PBC'd? » alexandra_k, posted by Minnie-Haha on May 23, 2005, at 11:34:21
>You were blocked by saying that the behaviour was due either to
> > A the poster not caring that people were upset.
> > B the poster not knowing that people were upset (and thereby not stopping the behaviour).
> > Those are claims about the *person* not the behaviour - and I thought that was why you were blocked.
>
> An assumption is made here that I was talking about a particular poster.Yeah. It was pretty clear that you were from the 'lets try that again' comment on the start of the thread...
>The paragraph that I got blocked on has 10 sentences. If one focuses on the third and fourth paragraphs (both start with “If”), they might conclude I was talking about a particular poster. However, if you look at the whole paragraph, and consider everything I’d written (or not written) in that thread, I think it’s clear that I am not talking about a particular person, but about two (not all) “intentions” that might be behind the behavior we were discussing.
Whos behaviour???
The problem was that both 'intention' hypotheses were uncharitable...
> FWIW: If I could have been rightly (IMO) blocked anywhere in my second thread, it would have been for what I wrote in the third “option” at the end of the post I got blocked on. I used the words “a certain individual’s behavior.” Although I did not identify anyone, it was a slip-up on my part.
And that... By your own admission... Was the problem there. That you DID have the behaviour of a particular individual in mind. And that you were judging the poster to not care about others feelings that you felt he was responsible for.
It isn't so much about 'being careful with what you say' as being careful with what you think in your interpretations. If you are careful with your interpreatations then you should be able to express them without 'being careful'.
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