Posted by Noa on October 26, 2004, at 18:50:42
In reply to Re: Lou's response to pegasus, posted by Noa on October 26, 2004, at 18:14:55
OK, to answer part of my own question...I found the reference in this thread to antisemitism and the great aunt. Here is my understanding of this:
When Lou posted a request for review of Nikki's post, he did not specify what aspect of the post was potentially a problem.
Nikki, having posted the post in an episode of great distress, felt targetted by Lou's request for determination about her post, and, I believe really did not have any idea what about her post could have been a problem for Lou.
Nikki's reaction was to post a sarcastic remark about what could possibly have been the problem with her post. This remark refers to previous interactions (before the last block) when Lou had accused Nikki of something antisemitic, (and apparently threatened legal action) that had prompted her to seriously research whether she had posted anything offensive (she learned from the organization she consulted that there hadn't been anything in her post that she would need to defend).
In response to Nikki's sarcastic reaction, Lou seems to have re-raised the issue of antisemitism, although there seems to be nothing antisemitic in her recent post.
Nikki clarified that her comment was directed at Lou individually only.
Lou seems to have percieved that Nikki's directing the remark at him is somehow antisemitic and is now requesting a guest expert on antisemitism.
My opinion: I don't see antisemitism in Nikki's comment. I only see sarcasm. I think a lot of this could have been avoided if Lou had been more specific about what aspects of the post had been questionable (he has since clarified that it was certain 'salty' words as well as reference to taking pills).
A second point where the escalation in the conflict might have been avoided is for Nikki to have refrained from making the sarcastic remark, although I understand the feelings behind it and why she was so hurt and angry.
My personal preference would have been that Lou show some acknowledgement that Nikki had written the original post in pain, because the effect, in my opinion, was that Nikki felt as though she were kicked while she was down and already injured.
I personally do not see a need to bring in an expert on antisemitism at this point. FWIW, if there ever were the need, I'd support it, but would NOT support bringing someone from the JDL (Jewish Defense League) which I personally beleive (and I acknowledge that others may have a differing view than mine) is a group with extremist tendencies. The ADL, on the other hand, (Anti-Defamation League) is a group I would feel comfortable with. But at this point in time, I don't see the need because I do not see evidence at this point of a problem with antisemitism on this board.
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