Posted by Dr. Bob on October 6, 2003, at 16:12:34
In reply to Re: Hi Bob- can we chat? P.S., posted by Dinah on October 6, 2003, at 14:37:04
> Can you tell us why you allowed K to post under an assumed name? People (who haven't been deceiving anyone) get banned when they post under another name...
Because I've considered it OK, in general, to assume a new name. And she wasn't posting under more than one name at the same time. And wasn't blocked any longer.
> So many on this board were hurt 6 months ago or whenever it was.
I know. Maybe this can be a healing process?
> You know (from previous admin posts) that many of us have negative feelings about posting to people as strangers when they know us from prior contact.
Right, I think the most recent thread is:
> I thought you discouraged that sort of thing. And I feel betrayed that you collaborated with it, instead of taking up your customary stance... I think you did a disservice to many posters by encouraging this.
Are you thinking I encouraged her to change names?
> What if the poster who kept coming back, and who made rude references to me and about eating my dogs and other similar things were to contact you about coming back as someone else, a new poster. Here would be someone who, from the posts I'm referring to, you could reasonably assume doesn't like me overly much (is that civil enough?). And I'd be responding to them as if they didn't feel that way about me. And they'd know and I wouldn't. And you would have been helping them along with that.
> I know this is going to happen on the internet. But it's different when it has your official sanction. Don't ask me how, but it just is.
Being contacted would constitute "helping them along"?
Part of this, you know, is trying to accept the things I cannot change. To accept and to deal with as well as possible. Does accepting count as sanctioning?
Also, I'm open to revising these policies, in case anyone has any suggestions...