Posted by shar on April 6, 2003, at 21:42:59
In reply to Re: Lou?, posted by Dinah on April 6, 2003, at 10:12:45
That you can be optimistic and caring in this case. All I am is cynical. Alternatives only work when people are truly interested in change, and not just extending the status quo. A quick look at this thread indicates to me (imo) an interest on the part of some to keep things just exactly the way they are.
Shar
> Perhaps we're missing something important here. Something that is becoming a bit clearer to me in your latest posts.
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> Are you trying to say with your posts requesting clarification that you're feeling hurt by what is being said about you? I think that would be perfectly understandable. I would feel hurt too, I think. In fact, sometimes I feel hurt by posts too, sometimes even posts that I realize weren't meant to hurt me.
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> I also think I remember (and please correct me if I'm wrong here because it was a long time ago) that you are very cautious about violating Dr. Bob's civility rules. Does this style of requesting clarifications help you feel better able to communicate without running the risk of violating the rules here?
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> Lou, I'm sorry you're feeling hurt. Perhaps there is some way here to start a meaningful dialogue about hurt and frustration and communication. Do you think your communication expert would consent to sign in and post? I'm pretty sure Dr. Bob would refuse to mediate, since that would go beyond his administrative duties. But it seems to me that there is a core of truth here that we're all bypassing. A common ground that can be reached if we could just get past the misunderstandings on all sides. Misunderstandings that are probably too large at this point to be solved by requests for clarification.
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> Perhaps we can all try to think of some alternatives?
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