Posted by terra miller on August 31, 2001, at 23:03:20
In reply to Re: Religious proselytizing, posted by Dr. Bob on August 30, 2001, at 4:59:05
> The goals here are support and education. So it's OK to share what's worked for you. But it's not OK to pressure others to do the same or to put them down for doing something else.
> or a simple tag line, for example:
> > --J.T., Soldier: USA West Territory, Sierra Del Mar and Southern California Divisions
> at the end of a post I think would be fine.
> How about that?
dear dr. bob- i'm usually really good about caring for myself and just reading what i need to and avoiding the rest. i wanted to point out something constructively here. that is, if the goals at this site are for "support" then i think it is educational to note that spiritual references at any point in a post-- "especially a tag" can be _extremely triggering_ to some. (perhaps more so if it is a signature type tag in a nonspiritual thread; that is insensitive) i'm actually triggered even by Sal's nic, but i choose to overlook it... literally skim over it. it seems to me that educating one who posts about this only makes them and others more understanding and supportive.
i am very aware of being responsible for my own actions and reactions. however, as i consciously choose to read only factual posts in order to educate myself on my own medical and psychological care, i find it unnerving to find traps where i did not expect. that's the risk i take, of course. but it also means that in caring for myself i know "who" to avoid reading, which is unfortunate because i cannot risk the chance of reading something triggering and may miss reading some valuable educational information or support.
for me, and who knows who else, this discussion is not a theoretical one. i am working very hard to heal from some extreme abuse. sometimes it's necessary to make a stand and stop theorizing....
aside from rescuing us from all wrong, i would appreciate knowing you were actively mediating when necessary with people/where insensitive material is knowingly/unknowingly posted.
you can't control everybody, but you can educate them which provides them with the opportunity for change and growth. ...and a more supportive site.
respectfully freaking out, -terra