Posted by TH on May 19, 2019, at 17:46:24
In reply to A Question of Tough Love, posted by vbs on May 19, 2019, at 15:58:42
I don't know if anyone, even he himself, would be able to give a proper answer to this. There are just too many possible reasons, and the answer could be any mix of them.
Some I can think of off the top of my head might include:
- He believed that you would be forced to find a way to cope. Some people do do better in a crisis, but this is far from a given.
- He may not have believed how serious of a condition Schizoaffective Disorder can be.
- He may have suspected a degree of malingering
- He may have been suffering from compassion fatigue. Having been on both sides of difficult diagnoses, I can say that it's a very real thing.
This is just the tip of the iceberg, and it feels to me like there are far too many possible reasons, some with your best interests at heart, some in the interest of his own self-preservation, to be able to understand it fully.
I would suspect that even to himself, any element of self-preservation that might have motivated the decision would be a source of guilt and therefore be reframed as one of the more benevolent reasons.
Try not to lose sight of the fact that all people are imperfect. You needn't accept his decisions, but you may find some closure in understanding that nobody is capable of endless wisdom, or endless compassion.
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