Posted by garnet71 on March 9, 2009, at 0:49:31
In reply to Re: Porn addiction and medication, posted by linkadge on March 8, 2009, at 18:21:34
I'm really disappointed with the ignorance and joking about sex addiction on a mental health forum. Disgusted is a better word.
Myname posted a question about porn *addiction* not casual porn use. Porn addiction mirrors other addictions--missed work/jobs are lost, financial ruin, divorces follow, health is comprimised, and people end up in jail. The dynamics of porn addiction are serious because a person who is sexually addicted becomes desensitized and will build a tolerance and need more 'extreme stuff' to get off (child porn) and eventually act out 'in real life' rather than only their computers, which leads to more extreme circumstances.
It's unexcusable to blame the partner of a sex addict as well as I've seen hinted here and on another post in this forum. Halle Barry divorced her sex addict husband; surely he did not seek sex repeatedly with others because 'she wasn't hot enough'. It has nothing to do with religion either-it is an ADDICTION. These are old wives' tales.
Patrick Carnes' book "In the Shadows" about internet sex addiction explains a lot. I've seen a documentary about sex addicts too--what started off as internet porn addiction ended up destroying their lives. One of the addicted persons explained how every waking moment of your life is plagued by the need to 'get off'. Every moment. No different from a herion addiction. That is no way to live, and one cannot possibly be in a marriage or relationship when all your thoughts revolve around sex 24/7. Other countries have opened internet addiction centers--this really is an issue that shouldn't be joked about, but instead, discussed maturely.
Again, the poster asked about sex addiction, not casual porn use. Anyone with addictive tendencies should be aware of the possibility of becoming seriously addicted.
The next time you feel like joking about porn addiction or not taking it seriously, think about the 6 year old girl who is raped repeatedly in front of a webcam to satisfy the urges of child porn users--those who started off with 'porn addiction' then subsequently required more and more extreme to get off. Just because women don't wear it on their foreheads, doesn't mean their are not numerous children--boys and girls-that have to grow up with the pain and knowing that thousands of men might have their rape stored on their hard drive so they can j*ck *ff over and over to their rape and molestation. My God, there are 1 year old babies that are raped.
I used to work with a man whose 2-year old baby girl was raped by a male caregiver. He took a handgun and almost killed the guy, but someone stopped him. Not only does the baby have the propensity to be affected over a lifetime for this, but the father is affected with deep pain and feelings of guilt for not somehow being able to prevent the situation, affected for the rest of his life, and he now has a criminal record in addition to mental health problems he had never had before.
Sex addiction hurts people.
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