Posted by HelpMeUnderstand on June 29, 2006, at 19:56:27
In reply to Re: Lexapro side effects, posted by joslynn on June 29, 2006, at 16:38:05
Joslynn, Thanks for the suggestions. As far as the kids go they are his and live with his ex. And he is seeing them a couple of times per wk whether he is up to it or not. As far as I go well he pushed me sooo far away we broke up today. He says he can't be with anyone right now. If he could he would be with me. And I reminded him I have supported him all thru this and still am and have not pushed him. I understand what a vulnerable state he's in. But I said even when you're going thru something like this you are supposed to let the ones you love help support you and you draw strength from them. Your're not supposed to make these life-changing decisions.
He said he still wanted me in his life and to be friends and maybe down the road when he recovered maybe we would be together but he couldn't say for sure. But for now he didn't want to see me or call me except when he felt like it, on his terms. And I said I couldn't do that. I asked him if he thought this all was from his new meds Lexapro and he said yes and no. He said he thinks it gave him enough control to take back everything I have been doing and taking care of for him. (responsibilities) And to be able to be ok being alone. And to quit putting me thru this because he finally has the "courage?" to tell me he has to do this alone without any help. For some reason he thinks me trying to help him, support him and give him strength means I'm trying to "fix" him. He just doesn't get that or what he's doing to us. I told him I couldn't be just his friend on his terms after all we have been thru. And I probably shouldn't have but I also told him he just didn't love me enough otherwise we would be continuing to work thru this together.
Now after all I have gone thru and he has put me thru I feel like I need to go see a counselor.
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