Posted by CEK on June 20, 2006, at 11:05:34
My sister has been taking Adivan for 7 years now for very bad panic attacks. She would feel like she was having a heart attack and was about to die. The Adivan has stopped her panic attacks, but if she misses one dose(like it her script runs out and she has to go get the med the next day) she gets out of control with panic. Her eyes get glazed over and red as can be. She says she feels like she is going to lose he mind if she misses one dose. She says she has never grown tollerant of it and has never had to increase her dose so it has not hurt her taking it for so long. What I'm wondering is, can it make you act dippy? Before she ever took this med she acted like she had a brain in her head. She is very smart, or use to act that way and you could have a conversation with her without it seeming like she was somewhere else and it went over her head. She no longer acts the same. My parents think she's taking some kind of street drug to make he act so strange. I don't think so. She doesn't have the money to do that. She has moved from Il. to be closer to us, her family while she is going through an awful divorce and fighting to get child support for her 2 children and does not have much money for anything, yet the money she does get she blows on stupid things at the store, or buys things she doesn't have to have for her house. She doesn't pay her bills half the time and has bill collectors beating down her doors and threatening to throw her in jail. She rights bad checks, even for $5.00 and ignores the letters she receives about them. She acts like she has no worries and does nothhing to try to help herself. Her oldest son which is 14, has ADD and bad mood swings and some sort of anger disorder, they called it something about difiance disorder and is suppose to be on medicine. He is physically and mentally abusive to her 5 year old and she does nothing about it. He threatens to hurt her, hit her, kill her, kill himself and she is afraid of him, yet she doesn't make him take his medicine. When he was taking it and was getting more in control, she would let his script run out or just not fill it and let him go without it. His father is nolonger in his life since the divorce, he was ordered supervised visitation because he was drugged out so bad and he decided he didn't want to see his kids if it had to be supervised. She let her oldest son run aroung with some of the kids in the neighborhood with the worst reputations and he started smoking weed. These kids even broke into her house and stole from her. My mother and I finally got her to move from that area and out into the country where he couldn't be around these kids, and then she would take him to their house to visit when he pleaded. She is living off of $11 an hour to support her 2 kids and herself with no child support.(her soon to be ex-husband keeps skipping out of the court dates to avoid having to pay) He was ordered to pay her over $900 a month for child support because he makes such good money, but she sees none of it. It likes she keeps waiting for her ship to come in when it isn't. My mother and I have tried to help her all we can by giving her money, babysitting and tried to offer her advice. None of it helps. We've tried to tell her that she needs to keep her son on meds, but it goes in one ear and out the other. When she got her income tax return in which was $4500 we told her to pay off those bad checks and try to pay some of the other bills and put some back. She paid none of them. She bought her son a computer which he uses to watch porn on(which she does nothing to stop)and blew the rest on clothes and things for her house. We finally got her to call the hospital and take her son there about the suicide threats. They put him in a hospital in the childrens section, kept him for a week and gave him new meds and released him saying he was fine. When he got home, he laughed and told his mother that he told them what they wanted to hear so he could get out and went back to acting the same way. Once again, she didn't give him his meds. One day after having an anger outburst and putting holes in the walls and threatening to kill her, we convinced her to call the police. They took him away after they searched his room and found the weed and he came home the next day. Nothing has changed him and my mother and I are affraid that he is going to seriously hurt his little brother or my sister or himself, but my sister won't do anything about it. The 5 year old has bruises on him all the time from his brother and we're affraid that if his older brother doesn't eventually kill him, what will become of the littlest one's life because of all of this hell. My sister just tells her oldest to stop when he is beating on him. We don't know what to do. She acts like she's in another world. My mother keeps the 5 year old at her house as much as possible to protect him, but she is in bad health and it is hard on her and my father is verbally abusive to the boy. My sister won't let me have him. I asked her in the past if she would give me temporary custody of him and I could put him on my insurance and keep him safe from all the hell he goes through until things in her life get better. Of course she wouldn't let me. This was before my illness had gotten so bad but I would still be more than happy for him to stay here. I know this ended up long as usual, but we don't know what to do for her. We don't know what happened to her. She use to be so sensible, now she acts like she doesn't have any since. I know she's having a hard time, but it's like she choses to ignore it all and maybe it will go away. We thought if only she'd give her son his meds and pay her bills when she can that it would give her some relief, but she won't listen to us. Could Adivan have changed her into this person? It's suppose to be a small dose, I don't know exactly how much she takes and I do know she was taking Lexapro, but I don't know if she still does. She doesn't see the change in herself and of course gets offended if we try to talk to her about it. She really doesn't want the advice at all I guess, because even when she asks for it, she doesn't do anything different. All she does is ask for more money to help her and babysitting. We've done all we can for her. My mother has run up all of her creditcards giving her money and now doesn't even have money for herself.(she is on a fixed income with social security and doesn't get enough to pay for her own meds ect.) My sister promised to pay it back when her income tax return came in, but didn't give her a dime. Before my financial situation became complete crap, I would secretly give her money to try to help her. Now I can't. I love her and I know she loves me, but I don't know how to get through to her. I feel like if social services knew what was going on with her children, they would do something about it. I can't make the call. She would hate me and I don't want to hurt her. But how do you save her children? If the Adivan hasn't changed her, could she be sick in someother way? I want to help her but don't know how. I just thought that maybe someone here might have some insite on her actions. Please, if you have any idea about what is going on with her, please post and tell me. Thank you, Cara
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