Posted by headachequeen on December 6, 2004, at 15:01:37
In reply to Re: Heads up » redscarlet, posted by rainy on December 6, 2004, at 5:34:17
> Rainy, the one day at a time theory is not just for AA or a great song title, it is a way of life that everyone needs to embrace.
Sometimes it should be one hour at a time or one minute at a time.
The mitzvah therapy needs to extend to one's self too, I think. We are so busy thinking of other people and doing for other people and thinking of what we can do next for other people that we forget that there is a great need in the person doing and thinking for others...
Frankly if this mitzvah therapy were all that successful I should be the healthiest happiest person on earth...
Most of my time is spent in the doing and thinking and planning what next to do for the person I can help and not worrying if that person knows or cares what has been done; I want to help because that is how I function best...
of course, of late, functioning at all has been an exercise in chaos I must admit...
smiling is fun... and it catches people off guard...
try it some time when you are walking down the street... smile as you are walking and direct the smile at the next person walking toward you... some people actually smile back -- a little shocked but they smile, others almost hide in their coats or scarves or whatever and some are wonderful as they almost walk into parked cars or buildings trying to figure out what is going on...
and it makes you chuckle and feel better...but on the serious side, it is important to try the mitzvah therapy on yourself... take a little time to be good to you... it may be the most important thing you do that day because if you can't be good to you you can't be good for anyone...
kat
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