Posted by Notalis on December 13, 2003, at 4:34:17
In reply to Re: people with SA have trouble with relationships?, posted by cosis on December 12, 2003, at 16:54:02
I don't think there really is anyone out there who isn't afraid of rejection or being judged.
Poeople who come across as super-confident can also be covering up feelings of insecurity.
I remember working as a hostess in a restaurant when I was 18-19. At that point in my life I couldn't be around people in a social type environment without drinking to calm my anxiety, but I was able to perform my job well because I ACTED. I turned into "hostess-girl" and was a totally different person. People said, wow you're really good with the customers, but that wasn't me.
The real me DOES NOT want to talk to strangers, DOES not want to be in groups of more than 3 or 4 people at a time.
I do translations on a computer for work in an office with 3 other people, I don't deal with the public, so it's ok, but for me, my ideal job would be completely away from people.
BUT, MY point IS, I cope.
I'm 33 now and I've gotten much better at using my coping mechanism over the past few years.
My husband says I don't have social phobia, that I'm just a social retard.
What he doesn't understand is that the 'retaded' things that come out of my mouth and the stupid things I do are attributed to the fact that I'm still panicked inside.
So, POINT IS, I might seem very confident to you, but it's false, and I don't know and have never met anyone who is absolutley confident.And that's ok, cause it's who we are.
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