Posted by Wendy B. on June 21, 2001, at 17:28:51
In reply to Re: transference, posted by JaneB on June 21, 2001, at 13:13:12
> > Have you mentioned it to the doctor?
> No, I haven't mentioned it to him. And I won't.
Hi Jane,
I know this is a difficult feeling to talk about. But you should definitely talk to your therapist about how you feel. He is a _professional_, and has had this discussion with many of his patients/clients, believe me. He is trained to work with you on just these issues. The transference is the "meat," so to speak, of every therapeutic relationship.
As I understand it, we project onto the therapist alot of qualities that they may or may not have, but what we need them to represent to us. For example, my therapist represented to me the empathetic mother I never had. It's different for everybody, but mostly has to do with childhood events or needs or traumas, etc.So please do say something, even if it's hard to talk about, even if it makes you cry during the session... I think we owe it to ourselves to get the most out of every session, and that means telling the truth and not hiding stuff.
I know people hate Freud (I don't, but there you go...), but he was the first to discuss the transference issue in a scholarly way. There is also the "counter-transference," which is the therapist's love for the patient, which is also totally normal, and what the therapist talks about when he goes to his sessions with _his_ therapist. Which most of them do, at least in the beginning of their work as pdocs. It's called the training analysis. So take heart! they have to discuss difficult stuff, too.
> >Are you in a relationship?
> Yes, I am married. It's either something pdoc said or the Wellbutrin. This isn't like me. Can WB cause transference? JaneBAs for the meds, this is precisely another reason to talk to the therapist about the issue... He may be able to offer insight on the wellbutrin, too. But the discomfort you're feeling is coming from you, not the drug, it's allowing you to get in touch with something, I believe.
Anyway, just my opinions. If it's too tough, you might want to switch therapists and go to a woman. There have been some interesting discussions on the Babble Boards about men vs. women therapists, do a search for them if it interests you.
I wish you luck, and courage!
Wendy
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